Not-Beautiful

"If it is love we are making, even though we are apprehensive or frightened, we are willing to untangle the bones of Death nature.  We are willing to touch the not- beautiful in another, in ourselves. Behind this challenge is a cunning test from the Self. "

"What is the not- beautiful? Our own secret hunger to be loved is the not beautiful. Our disuse and misuse of love is the not- beautiful. Our dereliction in loyalty and devotion is unlovely, our sense of soul- separateness is homely, our psychological warts, inadequacies, misunderstandings, and infantile fantasies are the not -beautiful. Additionally, the Life/Death/Life  nature, which births, destroys, incubates and birthd again is considered the not- beautiful. "

Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Women Who Run With the Wolves.