On self-love and acceptance

Do you sometimes disappoint yourself to make others happy?

Do you desperately seek approval and affection with your behavior?

Is there a double standard there when you are willing to accept others as they are but beat yourself up that you are not as you imagine yourself to be?

Acceptance and love are tricky things with lots of grey areas...

Love we mistake for commodity, for comfort,  for a shelter. And we search for it everywhere....outside ourselves.
But we forget to look at the one obvious place- within.

We think attachment is the same as love.

But love is not a bandage to cover wounds.

Love is a tremendous  experience and sometimes it requires the distinction of accepting things as they are or settling down for something that is simply not being true to ourselves.

Sometimes love requires the pain of letting go.

But letting go of the object of love is not the same as the letting go of the love.

Love is  energy and it cannot be lost. It changes shapes and forms but it doesn't disappear.

Sometimes in order to love yourself you have to let go of the self image you have created of yourself. and just accept yourself with all the pain, all the insecurities and fears, all the doubts and all the beautiful little things we do.